I believe that when your in a relationship as well as marriage both people need to think about each other for every single decision they make in their lives. It’s all about equality when its that way. Unless you are single you can think about yourself and do as you please, but your life in a relationship is about both people not just yourself. I know some people want it to be that way but it’s not as simple, it can’t be that way It’s unfair to the other person to be selfish and only think of yourself. I believe that when you’re in a relationship you are “one”, I know this isn’t the first time your hearing this so I know it makes sense to you. You and your partner are combined and the decisions you two make are carefully and thoroughly analyzed and thought through together. You both make life changing decisions for the both of you, to benefit the both of you as a couple.